You’ve just found out one of your team members has been looking for another job and has been taking time off to go for interviews or ‘shock, horror’ they have just handed their notice in.
We’ve all been there. It can be really easy to take it personally, your mind can run wild: Why don’t they like it here – isn’t it a great place to work? They aren’t going to get it better anywhere else! How can they do this to me? I’m going to be left in the lurch!
Over the years I developed a pragmatic approach to this and it basically boils down to one thing…
‘People are on their own journey with their own set of goals, timings and aspirations. If you can’t provide them with the opportunity to realise those things on their timeline, you need to let them move on.’
Personally, I have a lot of respect for someone taking action to pursue their goals and, whilst it can be incredibly inconvenient, any impact that has on me is insignificant.
The only consolation is that if I’ve been talking to them about what they want to do next, where their passion lies, what money they want, then their departure shouldn’t come as a surprise.
So, my mantra is to park any judgment and ‘don’t take it personally’.